Three years ago, I went through one of the most difficult times of my life. I’d recently dropped out of college, sold all of my material possessions including my two cars and moved to Afrika. I was living out of 2 suitcases.
Fasting. Hiking. Practicing Yoga. I Begun practicing celibacy (for a Man this is huge!). I was mentoring and teaching impoverished kids. And I was also trying to get my writing career off the ground. During this time I made many sacrifices to follow my dreams. And every single one of them have paid off in the end. If I hadn’t made those sacrifices, my writing career as well as my personal development wouldn’t be where it is today.
In order to achieve what we really want in life, we have to make sacrifices. Here are 7 things successful people sacrifice for their success.
I am often asked how I juggle practicing spirituality, writing, reading so many books ,mentoring, coaching, and a radio show. I often jokingly respond with, “Once I figure that out, ill let you know”. But in reality, the secret is how I make use of my time.
Truth is, it’s not about having enough time, it’s about making use of your time. We all have the same 24 hours and we all have the opportunity to use our time wisely. When we sacrifice time, we’re prioritizing a certain task over another one.
If we don’t make better use of our time and achieve our small goals, then we’ll never achieve the bigger ones that are most important to us.
2. Personal life
I have been happily celibate for almost 2 and a half years. It surely hasn’t been easy (especially for a man who is used to having a plethora of women) but in that time I have written three books, self-published them, started a radio station, healed past trauma’s and leveled-up my spirituality.
When we are determined to succeed, we have to make changes in our personal lives – in our friendships and our relationships. It’s not about neglecting your loved ones – it’s about weeding out unnecessary encounters, outings and conversations.
Each one of us has their responsibilities and sometimes we simply have to sacrifice. If we don’t learn to say ‘no’ or give up a night out with friends to study/work, we are the ones who suffer. These are the moments in our life when we have to think of our needs, and let our loved ones know that we need to do what’s best for us.
There are days when I’m feeling more stressed, tired and overworked than on others. There are days when I question whether what I’m doing is really worth it. But I know it is. Working hard towards our big goals in life was never meant to be easy. These goals and aspirations for the future are meant to test us, challenge us, and stretch us.
Maybe your family and friends call you crazy for working so hard. But you need to do what’s right for you. You don’t need ‘easy’ you need ‘worth it’. And know that in those temporary crazy moments, you are a step closer to having what you truly want.
As I always say: “Life is too short to be normal. Stay weird.”
The reality is, when we’re determined to achieve our goals, we might start to neglect our bodies and our minds. We start to eat less healthy, do less exercise or maybe reduce it to none at all, we might even put our emotional and mental health at risk. It may not be the most ideal thing to do, but those determined to be successful know that it’s only a temporary solution.
We may not be able to put our full attention into our physical, mental and emotional health but we have to be aware of when our body is being overworked. We must realize when we have gone too far.
Successful people may start to neglect parts of their life in order to improve other parts of their life. But this can only last for a while. Sooner or later you have to live a healthier life or you’ll regret it in the future.
Sometimes, no matter how productive you are during the day, you need those extra hours of sleep at night. Without those extra periods of rest, you may not be able to get everything done. Some nights I really push myself but I always try my best to sleep 6 hours a night. And if I can’t, I make up for it another night.
But my rule of thumb is simple, if you have something you know needs to get done and its urgent, then sleep must be sacrificed for success. No hesitation. No question about it!
Although I dont have one main source of income, my writing (right now) surely is not what pays the bills. Any author can tell you that you make hardly anything from publishing your books. For an author, money is made in appearances, speaking engagements, merchandise, courses and classes.
So In order to follow my dreams, I had to sacrifice stability. This also includes security and comfortability because having less money to pay the bills is certainly uncomfortable. But in my eyes its worth it.
It’s not the most ideal way to live your life, but it’s a sacrifice I have to make to move my career forward.
Successful people have to deal with instability, financial or otherwise, and their life can feel like a roller-coaster. But the good news is that roller coasters go down but they also come back up. If we don’t risk stability, we’re giving up the chance to make our lives better.
7. Immediate Desires
There are so many distractions, temptations, and things that each of us wants right now. Things that might encourage us to procrastinate when we really shouldn’t. We might want to do something simple like to check our Facebook feed. We might want to do something more significant like buy a new car. But the question is – what is more important to our mission?
We have to make the choice between our immediate desires and the needs that will propel our dreams forward.
Fact is, it’s not wrong of us to have these immediate desires, its human nature (the fact that you have a brain) to choose the ‘easier’ option’. It’s normal to feel that way. However, when we sacrifice what we want right now, we get something bigger, better, something more important later. Something that will bring us one step closer to our Promise. Something that provides real fulfillment. And Something we truly seek, not just something we want right now.
If you want to be successful and achieve what you really want in life, there is no doubt that you’ll have to make sacrifices. But when you reach the end of that mountain, you’ll be so very glad that you never gave up the journey.
So look up, get up, and dont ever give up!
Freedom Strategist & Mental Game Coach
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